Joined: Nov 21, 2010
Posts: 2521
Location: Gastonia, North Carolina
Some of you folks have heard me speak about my son, well tomorrow he begins a new day in his life as he goes off to college. He is going to a smaller college about 1 hour from the house, but my buddy, my little gaming partner won't be at the house when I wake up on Thursday. I really is with mixed emotions I write this, I am so happy for him to become a college student and keep growing to the fine man I know he will be. On the other hand what am I going to do? It seems like the past 18 years have just flown by and I almost don't know what to do. Take up a hobby? Start exercising, (surely NOT), work more hours, do some repairs around the house?
I almost feel like I'm going to be a bit lost - I mean after scouts, sports, Marching Band, Concert Band. Being the volunteer for Soccer, Band, Scouts anything that would help him out with his maturing and experiencing new and wonderful things. Now I cant really go and help him go thru this, I hope both he and I are prepared for the next few years. I'm sure there will be challenges and hopefully plenty of rewards.
Thanks for listening to my few moments of self pity and dare I say some selfish pride that I have for my son.
Going to miss you dude!
AJ
Joined: Feb 12, 2012
Posts: 1570
Location: MO. USA
Joined: Apr 13, 2013
Posts: 87
Location: Northern, Utah
Congrats on raising such a fine young man! It is a testament to his upbringing that he is venturing on his present course!
I have a daughter that is a senior in high school this year. She is either going to be a doctor or an engineer of some sort. Utah State University here in my home town is an excellent engineering school, and University of Utah has a renowned Medical program and is only 80 miles away. Like you, there will be mixed emotions when the time comes for her to venture her own path. But I know she will continue to make me a proud dad whatever she chooses to become!
I know you must be proud of your boy but remember to take pride in yourself! He didn't get where he is without a lot of help!
Joined: May 25, 2013
Posts: 36
Location: NW Pennslyvania
BigConn, your role in his life is still just as important now as it was in the early years maybe even more so now. his future is bright and you had a lot to do with that, so hold your head up suck in that gut stick out your chest and smile (only slightly though) because you did exactly what every parent wants to do, and that is to give there child the best chances of success, and from what you wrote above I feel you have done that. with that said congrats to the both of you.
Joined: Mar 12, 2013
Posts: 12
Location: Ithaca, New York
Congratulations on such a big accomplishment both for your son and you as a father!
A year ago I was on the opposite end (a 17-year old boy heading to university), and I can tell you that at least in my case, I needed my parents' support more than ever. Being on my own all of a sudden was pretty harrowing! At the same time I wanted them to take advantage of their new-found freedom: when I think of how much they sacrificed for me I feel pretty awful, so now at least I want them to do things they couldn't before. I definitely encourage you to try something new, something cool, something you've always wanted to do, both to occupy yourself and to show your son that you're doing ok.
Good luck to both of you!
Just call me commando
I admit that twice two makes four is an excellent thing, but if we are to give everything its due, twice two makes five is sometimes a very charming thing too. - Dostoyevsky
Joined: Dec 04, 2009
Posts: 563
Location: Pensacola, Florida
Congrats to you Dad. And to your son.
I can relate. It is hard to watch your children go of and away. It was tough for me also. Two girls and a son in the middle. My girls got married, and that was both hard and happy too. And when my son left, he was going into the US NAVY, so that has taken a toll on me. And parents ALWAYS WORRY about their children, specially if they are going into the military and possibly into harms way. But you will find other things to so, and go accustomed to their going off and being young adults.
As for me, I have found it more difficult for me to deal with my sons absence. For some reasons I feel more connected to him than to my girls, sadly. I would guess it is because he too is not military, such as I was at a young age. And I can not relate to my daughters well, as I have never been pregnant. LOL
You will be fine. Find yourself a new hobby, or play online more. Or something of that nature.
Best of luck to you and to your son.
Vrai A La Fin
Joined: Dec 15, 2009
Posts: 1754
Location: North Carolina
bigconn - I know that you feel weighted down with some concerns with your son leaving the nest. I have four children with my first wife and a step-daughter with my current wife, who thankfully is my best friend also. With 19 grandchildren
and great grandchildren I know somewhat how you are feeling right now. Sadly, we lost one grandchild because she was in the wrong place at the wrong time. We never know what life may throw at us in these trying times, but
I certainly feel that you have laid down a firm foundation for your son to build his own life upon. I congratulate you on the preparation you have provided him and share with you, even though I've never met your son, the pride
you must feel about him as he steps into manhood. You have done an excellent job as a parent - - -Congratulations ! ! !
Joined: Mar 13, 2011
Posts: 2064
Location: Owen Sound, Ontario, Canada
Bigconn, your Son needs you more now than ever. (to be the "strong-silent" type) .
Now you will have to trust what he does now. Decisions he makes will be based on what you have taught him.
He'll be just fine. Congratulations!!
TwoFour
Joined: Nov 21, 2010
Posts: 2521
Location: Gastonia, North Carolina
Joined: Apr 20, 2009
Posts: 1384
Location: Columbia, MD USA
bigconn...I am taking my son off to college this coming Thursday (22nd)...I have the same emotions as well....my son will be about 2 hours away, but I am very excited for him...
